Beginning of
2014 my husband asked me what my new year’s resolution would be. “To be
more patient as a mom,” I said. Because I just realized how I’ve become quick-tempered
most of the time to my 4-year old son since our baby came in 2013, which should
not be the case. It’s just so hard to deal with a very active boy, who keeps on
screaming and jumping around the house while you’re trying to put the baby to
sleep. But at least, hubby said, it wasn’t bad for my first month. J
I did a
little research on different discipline techniques. Check out the list, you may
find one or two that will work for you.
1. Keep your
cool, respond with love. Staying
calm will definitely make the situation a lot better. Showing love builds
respect and trust. Consistency is the key.
2. Say “No”
gently but firmly, give a
simple explanation as to why it’s not possible. And then change the topic.
Distraction always does the trick.
3. Take time to
listen. When a child is extremely angry,
most likely, he will not listen to whatever explanation you might have. Let them
talk, hear his side of story. He will somehow agree to you later on, once he
feels he was heard first.
4. Teach with
guidance. When asking a child to complete
something he doesn’t know how to do. Stop nagging, demonstrate with love, work
together and avoid arguing.
5. Speak kind
words. 90 percent commending the good,
and 10 percent judging the bad. “Parents who mostly correct and criticize
reduce a child's motivation to cooperate” said Carl Pickhardt, a Psychologist and family expert.
6. Stay by his
side. Even when you’re too mad to
deal with your young one, never leave him alone. Or else, he will feel abandoned and
might think that it's OK to leave someone behind.
7. Whisper to
get his attention. Raising your
voice to a screaming child is often ineffective. When you whisper, he will have
to be quite to be able to hear you. Children are very curious!
Every child behaves differently, if there are
other techniques that apply to your kid, please share it with us, and leave a
comment. Let’s make life a little bit easier for another mom (or dad) out there.
Enjoy life with your little sweetheart, Stay Happy! J
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